Gabe seems to have undergone a huge transformation- from mama's boy to daddy's little guy. It honestly seems like he could care less if I'm around these days. I know that isn't true, and I know that he still loves me, but he always wants to play with daddy now. He even went to daddy yesterday when he scraped his chin :( I have been replaced and it makes me a little sad and jealous. Aaron understands, and I've been pretty open with him about how I feel, but it's still hard to see.
On one hand, I'm thrilled he's developing such a good relationship with his dad. He needs good men in his life, to develop his "boy skills" ha ha. On the other hand, though, I miss my little buddy. He's done the same thing with my mom- he LOVES his grandpa- but it's hard for us women, especially after we work so hard to make sure he is taken care of day in and day out.
Any suggestions, tips, stories, encouragement from the other moms out there?
3 comments:
Laura, this is a hard time to go through . I remember it well. There were lots of tears cried and whining that my kids didn't like me. But Josh put it well into perspective for me. Up until now with Gabe, Aaron was going through what you are going through. Babies need their mother and only go to sleep for their mothers and who cares if they have a dad. When they are toddlers, they realize that dad is just as fun as mom and the beautiful thing is that children always remember their mother. My kids do cry now when I leave and tell Josh they want ME to come back. Sadly all of us go through this. Sorry!!! But like you said, Gabe still loves you and knows you are his mommy. :) Probably more than you wanted as a comment. I'm a long winded typer.
I am praying for peace for you! We have all been there, and truthfully I am still sad sometimes when they want their daddy more than me...BUT...how many times have I said: I just need some me time? It's great that you are such a wonderful mom and do so much for Gabey, but think of it this way...he is transitioning for baby Claire:) He is developing a wonderful relationship with daddy and grandpa and preparing himself for when you are an even busier mommy!! You will always be his mommy, and you will always come first in his heart:) Take care of yourself, hugs and kisses!!!
Laura, both my kids went through phases where they flip-flopped. I'd be the favorite, then it was dad, then back to me, etc. Now we seem to have settled into roles - Dad's the homework guy, the sports guy, the games guy. I'm the one to snuggle with, read books with, go to movies, fix the "owie". And you know what? I wouldn't want to be the homework guy. Dad is AWESOME at it! It's hard to let go though, but enjoy the bond your kids have with Aaron. He might handle a situation differently than you would, but it's not necessarily wrong. Just different. :)
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